My Herpes Story – A Not So Pretty Look

This is a copy of an email message that I sent out to one of my great customers who reached out to me…I don’t do this often but it does shed a little light on why I have created this website and course…

Disclaimer…no names were used..only my remarks…enjoy

Thanks for reaching out and sharing such a personal story.  Sometimes it simply helps to express your feelings with someone who can relate to your problems…I hope you feel better…(maybe a wee bit better?)

The more that you share the more our situations parallel.  As comforting as it may be to know that others have walked in your shoes, it is important for you to learn from my mistakes…our parallels will hopefully end with a much better outcome for you.

You see, I’ve had HSV-2 for nearly 25 years but it was only 6 years ago that I finally broke free from the seemingly death grip it had on me and how I let it run my life.

You asked for the turning point…yes…I remember it well.  March 3 2007.  It was the day I gathered up the guts to leave my wife of 10 years.

Much like you, from the moment that I experienced my first outbreak I was in denial.  Not just a little but complete denial.  I would simply ignore the outbreaks. I refused to go to the doctor.  After I broke up with the woman who I think transmitted it to me, I was single and herpes was not going to get in my way.  The difference between you and me is that you are being a lot more responsible than I was.

Only 6 months after breaking up with that woman, I met another and married her.  I never told her about my little visitor.  I was able to hide the outbreaks from her for over a year.  Finally, the stress of it all got to me.  I told her that I had something wrong and needed to go to the doctor.  I explained my diagnosis to her just like my doctor explained it to me…that I could have been infected before we met and just now had an outbreak.  She bought it.  I was safe at last…or was I?

Not really.  The reason why I chose to date and then marry her was not because I loved her but because she loved me.  I had married her…lied to her….and then I felt trapped.  Imprisoned by a virus that eventually ruined more than one life.

The fear of telling someone about my herpes problem consumed me to the point of marrying the first woman who came along.  One that I knew from the start was not my soulmate.  Much like living with the secret of having herpes, the stress and my unhappiness became too much to handle.  I had made up my mind that I could not do it anymore.  I had reached my breaking point and walked out…never to let herpes dictate my life or my happiness.  My wife was heartbroken and couldn’t understand at the time but now she’ll tell you that it was the best thing that I could have done.  Not only did I break free but I allowed her to find someone who would love her the way that she deserved.

Once I got out of the marriage, I started to love myself again.  My self confidence came back and I was on top of the world, determined to never go back to that dark place….ever again.

So back to single life again..this time I had a new outlook…I actually acknowledged my “little visitor” but slowly I slipped back…not all the way but enough for me to turn to a herpes dating website.  This was another eye opening experience.  I would never advise someone to resort to those.  The only reason why people are on there is to avoid having the talk.  Some will tell you that the fear of transmitting it to someone they love is more powerful than the fear of telling…but most are in denial too.

That was the last time that I ever let the fear of telling someone get in my way again.  In the long run, it’s simply not worth it.  The fear will eventually ruin your life and possibly the life of someone innocent.

I’ve learned a lot over the past 6 years and I’ve tried to simplify and condense it into the course you purchased.  I hope that it helps people understand that the only thing holding them back is them.  The fear is not real.  Its an illusion.  We make herpes to be more than what it really is.  People will accept you and all that you have to offer…but you have to be the one to start.  If you communicate it through your self confidence, knowledge and mix in a little bit of predetermined attraction you’ll have success… a lot of it!

Once I learned how to do it…I was NEVER rejected because of herpes.  I’ve told people at nearly ever stage of a relationship.  When I was playing around with online dating site (the real ones with quality people) I told people who I hadn’t even met.  Not one rejected me. Every woman that I told STILL wanted to meet me in person.

It can be an enlightening experience.  I’m proud to tell you that herpes has made me a better man.

May Peace Be With You All!

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